tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18275882537374176562024-02-20T00:17:31.608-08:00WorthEveryOunceAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16141731290094514590noreply@blogger.comBlogger124125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1827588253737417656.post-2939280076562007322017-09-10T21:12:00.001-07:002017-09-10T21:12:25.658-07:00A Diagnosis and a Thank You<div class="separator" style="clear: both;">
It was a year ago things started changing for my little girl. It was back to school time. First grade was exciting and she was loving her new teacher. Then it happened. I started getting phone calls from the office. Olaya was complaining of headaches. She was falling asleep in class. I noticed as she would walk her steps were different. It almost looked like she was having to drag her feet.</div>
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After a summer of sleeping in, naps when wanted and no real routine, my first thought was that she was having a hard time adjusting to all day school and the new schedule. I was reassured even by the principal that her own first grader was taking naps after school. The problem was that she wasn't just taking a nap. She was going to bed.</div>
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Right away I got her in with her primary care doctor. I was told to give her a cocktail of benadryl and ibuprofen for her headaches along with adding a vitamin fortified with iron to her daily routine. The truth is the doctor didn't know what to tell me and felt she was okay.</div>
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The headaches got worse. At six years old she was having full blown migraines. A couple times a week I was getting calls from the school that they needed me to come over and give Olaya medication. Eventually they let me leave medicine for her and the principal would just give it to her with my permission. It was getting very difficult for me to leave work each time she had a headache. </div>
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Olaya got home from school at three and would promptly fall asleep.She slept from then until I woke her for dinner around 6. She would stay awake long enough to talk for a bit, eat dinner, take a bath and then be ready to get back in bed at 8. Some days we tried to fit in her singing or dance class. That was a nightmare most weeks. She would fall asleep in the car and be very angry when I woke her to go to class. Again I went back to the doctor and this time with a new pediatrician but at the same clinic.</div>
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This doctor did more blood work. She seemed to be more invested in what we were experiencing but overall her answer was to give Olaya a medication for the headaches and a medication to wake her up, speed. My thought was and has always been that I am okay with giving a child a medication if I know what it is for. I am not okay with giving a medication to mask a symptom and just see how it goes. I left that day with the prescription for a "headache medicine" only to learn from a specialist we saw a few months later that what she prescribed was actually a medication that was used to help with sleep. I never filled the prescription.</div>
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I wasn't okay with giving Olaya this medication as the doctor couldn't give one reason why she was having headaches. As I left the clinic that day I went straight to my chiropractors office. He got Olaya in and right away found the cause of her migraines. Within three treatments she was migraine free. To this day Olaya will let me know when she starts to get tight in her neck and feel pain so that I can get her in. Truthfully, she doesn't like the process of "getting her neck popped". However, she does know that it brings her relief and prolongs the time she is pain free so she is now happy to see our chiropractor, Gary Johnson. I am happy to report that since those first couple of visits, Olaya has not had a migraine. She does get mild headaches on occasion. We see Dr. Johnson as needed, typically once every three or four weeks.</div>
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A week or so later the pediatrician called to see how things were going now that we started the "headache" medicine. I explained about seeing a chiropractor and she became hostile. She told me a child should never be adjusted and that chiropractic care for kids can lead to stroke. I explained I was surprised she was more eager to provide a medication, give my daughter chemicals, than try a natural treatment. It still baffles me. I keep finding that the medical profession just wants to push pills. . . for everything. </div>
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Long story short I was frustrated. By this time I had met with three different pediatricians from this same clinic. Each one dismissed Olaya's symptoms. Each one wanted to address each symptom as if it stood alone. They told me none of these things were related. Eventually Olaya created a work around for her sleepiness in class. She learned to become hyper or stay always moving so that she wouldn't fall asleep. At my final consult with the third pediatrician she told me it sounded like everything was working out for Olaya when I told her she had figured out to ways to stay alert by moving around. I asked how that could possibly be a solution. It certainly wouldn't be for her or I. She said that as long as Olaya was doing well in school and this wasn't hindering her life then I should just be okay with it.</div>
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The thing was, this controlled our life. I was missing out on time with my daughter because of all the sleeping she was getting. If she had a dance recital, we arrived 45 minutes earlier than the suggested time so that Olaya could curl up on a row in the back of the auditorium to nap and wake only in time to go on stage. When we traveled to an amusement park Olaya would fall asleep standing in line and instead of laughing and frolicking on the rides she was fighting to keep her eyes open. One time she fell asleep pushing the shopping cart in Walmart. I turned when I saw the cart go flying down the aisle and saw he collapsing to the ground only to wake up when her head hit the floor. Nothing about any of this was normal. That was the final straw for me with the pediatricians. They were not listening. I had questions and they didn't have any answers. </div>
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It was then the pediatrician offered to put Olaya on a stimulant medication. Again, I am not okay with prescribing a medication when we don't know what it is we are treating. I asked if we could see a specialist. I asked if we could get another opinion. Again the doctor suggested trying a medication and see what happens. Again I demanded to see a specialist. She reluctantly suggested seeing someone to do a child sleep study. However, she sad I would have to go to Salt Lake and that they are very expensive. I was dumbfounded. She was actually trying to persuade me against quality medical care because I would have to drive a couple hours and that it would cost. Those are both things I get to worry about. First, Salt Lake is not that far away and second, my daughter has double coverage between her dad and myself. I took the referral and made an appointment. </div>
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A few weeks later we saw Dr. Safi at Primary Children's Hospital. Although I was reluctant to have high hopes, he squashed my fears within minutes. He listened. He listened for quite a while. He shared with me that when his office requested Olaya's file they sent a copy of the chart notes from out last visit and all it said was "Mom in again with concerns of her daughter being tired." SERIOUSLY!!!</div>
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Dr. Safi got to see first hand how quickly Olaya would fall asleep. He had her up on the exam table. He was asking her questions and she was alert and responding. He turned to me for a couple of questions and within a few moments when he turned back to Olaya she was asleep. Even he was surprised at how quickly she was out. </div>
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He requested new blood work, discussed a few ideas with me and scheduled Olaya for a full night sleep study and day napping study. He was confident he would find some answers in the study.</div>
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So, here we are. I decided not to do the study during the summer (although looking back I should have just done it as soon as possible). I waited for school to be back in session and Olaya be on a regular sleep schedule.</div>
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We made the trip down to Salt Lake City on a Tuesday afternoon. We knew we would arrive. They would get her hooked up to a bunch of sensors. They would monitor her through the night. They would monitor her through five nap studies during the full day of Wednesday. </div>
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When we arrived at the hospital we had to walk across this connecting hall to get to the sleep lab. I saw my little girl, with her favorite pillow, embarking on a journey as she walked that hall. She has such a brave spirit.<br />
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It wasn't until the technicians started hooking Olaya up to the sensors that I truly knew the fear Olaya was experiencing. She had asked me the typical questions. What are they going to do? Will it hurt? What do I do? How long do I have to do it? When can I go home? I answered all her questions as best I could. She seemed okay with it all. Then it happened. As they were placing the sensors, Olaya said, "I am going to be sick." I jumped up and got the garbage for her to use. My poor little girl was holding in some emotions until they all came spilling out. Once that was over she said she felt much better. The technicians were awesome. They were kind with her. She settled down and the placement of sensors continued.</div>
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I will say the study went well. She didn't have a problem sleeping in a strange place. She never does. On the other hand, I didn't sleep much at all. By morning I was welcoming the technicians coming to wake her. Unfortunately construction starting at 6 AM in the office behind us woke her first.<br />
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Shortly following writing my previous post... the one where I ended a relationship just as it was starting...I found out I was pregnant.</div>
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Yep. Forty years old. Single. Working on my activity and commitment to my church. AND PREGNANT.</div>
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Instantly my life changed. </div>
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I wish I could say I handled the news well. I wish I could say I was all excitement and joy. That is not my reality. I was ashamed. I was full of fear. I was confused. Broken. Alone. There were moments I felt excitement. The thrill of having another child was something I had only dreamed of, especially in my situation. </div>
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What I am about to share is the reality for me. It is a true love story. Not in a typical sense. This story could have ended very differently. There are those that may not understand this journey. They don't have to. This is my journey. There are those that will relate. There are those that will understand. I write this for them. </div>
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The news of my pregnancy sent me into a panic. The darkness that has plagued me from time to time began to descend again. It didn't take long to grab hold. I found myself placing a call to Planned Parenthood. I asked about my options. Options that are not in agreement with my personal beliefs. I am not saying what I believe is right for anyone else. I am only saying what is right for me. I had the appointment. I wasn't going to tell anyone. If I didn't tell anyone about my pregnancy and I went to the appointment, then no one would ever have to know. Yet, I knew I would know. </div>
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Luckily, there was also something telling me this wasn't right. I wrestled at night with the darkness. On one hand I tried to tell myself this would be the easier choice. Easier. That word kept staying with me. Easier on who? I couldn't do it. I truly believe one day there will be an accounting. I will face that spirit that I did not allow to come to earth and I knew he would ask me one question. WHY? How could I tell him I couldn't bring him to earth because I was afraid of what people would think if me? My fear of what others would think of me led me to end his life before it began. I didn't go to my appointment. Instead I text my previous therapist. I hadn't seen him in a while. </div>
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I don't remember exactly what I sent him. Although it was something to the effect of, "I am pregnant and it is getting very dark very fast." He responded by telling me I need to get into a therapist right away and that I needed to go to someone that shared my same beliefs. He knew in my state I could be easily influenced. He knew the world could see my situation and offer a solution that made everything go away.</div>
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The short story is that I got in with an amazing therapist. He understood my dark. He helped me understand choices and temptations. We discussed weakness. We discussed strength. He shared with me that my worth does not change because of this. He had my Bishop (leader of my faith community) come to one of my sessions. The three of us worked through my fears, my shame and my joy. I won't share all the details of those conversations. I will tell you, I felt nothing but love. There was no judgement. There was no scolding or chastising. There was no discussion of consequences, Only love. Concern. Support. </div>
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The next few weeks were a roller coaster of emotions for me. We are into March. The kids and I went to Florida for Spring Break. Pregnancy hits my body hard and fast. I was already having morning sickness and fatigue. I told my kids while were on vacation. Once we returned home I had to tell my parents. It was Easter Sunday. Again I won't go into all the details of the conversation except to say that again I came away with only love. Obviously concern. Mostly there was love and support. My dad shared with my siblings (with my approval) that were present that evening. There was shock but always love and support. </div>
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The next day I went to my sister. Although there are 14 of us kids, I am not exceptionally close to many of them. I would like to be. This one sister has been the most involved in my life. Again, only support, concern and love. She also stated, "It's a baby. A baby is a miracle, a gift, no matter." Another sister I called on the phone. She also only focused on the gift that was coming. </div>
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I write about all this only to share that never did I find a negative response or a harsh word from someone I shared my story with. Yes, I did get a few bizarre text messages from acquaintances that heard through the grapevine. However, from those around me never has there been yuck. The yuck I experienced was all internal.</div>
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It took me quite a while to balance my emotions. One, as sick as I was the first 16 weeks it was hard to be happy about anything. I could barely function the nausea and vomiting was so bad. Second, I had this terrible shame to deal with. It was completely self induced. Early on I went to dinner with a friend. At this point I had not told my family. I'm not sure if I had even been to see the therapist yet. I know I had decided to not go to my appointment with Planned Parenthood. As we sat and talked things out I shared with her just how big I felt this burden was going to be to get through. She said to me, "Sometimes our greatest burdens become our greatest blessings." I hung to these words. They sustained me when the dark tried to creep in. </div>
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Over time I started to share my news with people. Somehow I always felt like I had to apologize to them for my situation. It was exhausting. I realize they didn't ask for an apology or any justification. I just felt I had to offer it. Eventually I stopped wanting to share my happy news for each time I shared I felt I had to offer all this other background instead of just saying, "Hey, I am pregnant." So many would tell me not to feel that way. Never did anyone demand an explanation. It was all my own projecting. I wanted to just share my joy. Instead I kept stealing from it. Until . . .</div>
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I was seeing my midwife for a checkup visit. It was maybe the second time I was able to hear the heartbeat. The midwife was searching for the sound and while it was probably only a split second, there was a little bit of time before she could find it. In that moment, that felt like eternity, all my shame, fear, regret, and justification went away. It was in that moment I faced the idea that my child may be gone. Fear of facing people with my truth was replaced with the fear of losing him (in my heart I already knew it was a him). Time stopped. I closed my eyes as they filled with tears. I said a silent prayer that he would not be taken from me. Nothing else mattered. It all came into perspective in that moment. Bring on the looks. Bring on the questions. Bring on the judgement. I didn't care. In that moment it became so suddenly clear that he was all that mattered. Then she found the heartbeat. And with that I got past my shame. It was a beautiful turning point for me.<br />
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I have known this boy was coming for a while. Never would I have imagined it this way but I did know.</div>
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When I was married to the father of my girls, we had planned to have two children. I already had three. We had our Olaya and were planning to get pregnant again relatively soon. That all came to an end when Olaya was 9 months old and he called home from the oil field to inform me he had a girlfriend in the town he was based out of. My marriage ended. My staying home to raise my children ended. The idea that I was going to have another child did not go away. Over the years I would question Heavenly Father in my prayers why he did not take this desire away from me if there was no way for me to fulfill it. I finally found comfort in knowing another child didn't mean I was to be pregnant. It could easily mean adoption (I had done that once already as a single parent). It could mean a step-child if I was to ever marry again. Over time I allowed that desire to live in the background of my thoughts. I knew one day I would have another child call me mother. </div>
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Jump to October of 2015. Don't think I am strange. I have been closely linked to my role as a mother on a spiritual level, I have always known the gender of my children before an ultrasound gave us the official result. When my grandmother passed away I was comforted to know my next child would be a girl and she would carry the name of my grandmother. These promptings were never wrong. So when I received the prompting in October I didn't get all that surprised. The distinct notion came to me that I needed to prepare because HE was coming. This prompting came multiple times. At the time I was not actively doing foster care. I had asked to only provide respite for other foster families. In my mind it meant there was a little boy needing me through foster care. Sure enough, soon came a call that a three year old boy needed a home and possible adoption. I figured this was just the playing out of my prompting. </div>
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The thing was, this sweet little boy came to me and I never felt he was truly mine. When my daughter was placed in my arms at 10 months old, I instantly knew we were only being reunited. I knew we had been together before this life. I never felt she was mine, I knew I belonged to her. Her officially adoption only made right what had been in place from the beginning. As much as I wanted to love this little boy, I never had similar feelings for him. Something just didn't feel quite right. I could easily love him. That was never the question. Deep down I knew he was the son of another. As it tuns out, there was a relative that had been fighting for him since the first day he was taken into foster care. So what was I to do with this feeling that I was to get ready for my son to come? End of February I find out I am pregnant. I knew the child was a boy. I sensed it from day one. As we searched for names I could only settle on boy names. Not a single girl name stood out. Funny thing was I would have wanted a girl. I already had girl clothes and girl things. Yet, I knew the little one growing inside me was a boy. I knew before I was ever even pregnant.</div>
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I can tell you that today, I wouldn't change a thing. Back in February I would not have set out for this path. Now that I am on this journey, I wouldn't change a thing. I have been so richly blessed in so many ways. I feel this boy inside me move and I am thrilled and anxious for the day I get to meet him. He picked me to be his mother. The magnitude of that blessing is not lost on me. The emotional and spiritual journey I have taken because of him has brought me to a beautiful place. Our story tells me there is something at work greater than myself. I shouldn't have gotten pregnant. It took me three years to get pregnant with my first child. With my age, my fertility rate should be lower. With my weight, my fertility rate should be lower. Yes, I do know how babies are created.Yes, that did happen. I just know, this was part of the bigger plan all along. </div>
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The last few months I have been working on my physical health. Through encouragement, self determination and plain loathing for my current physical state, I have been getting in more workouts. My food plan is high protein/low carb/high fat. While I know this plan works for my body, I have not been consistent with sticking with it.</div>
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A couple months ago, right around Thanksgiving, I committed to my faith and was baptized a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. With this has come many beautiful blessings. It is what I have wanted for a very long time. In addition, by getting baptized I committed to abstain from a few things.</div>
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As a teen I was always a little over weight. Nearing my sixteenth birthday I distinctly remember my mother saying to me how happy she was it would be my sweet sixteenth and never been kissed. Well, this wasn't the case at all. I had kissed boys. Then there was another conversation that I remember her telling me that she was grateful I was a little heavy because it had kept the boys away during my teen dating years. This came after a conversation about some neighborhood girls that had gotten pregnant very young or were causing their parents stress due to their dating and boy crazy behaviors. </div>
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The thing was...I had lots of male attention. I had been kissed. Much more than just kissed. I never went without a boyfriend. Yet somehow in my mind I associated being fat with being less desirable to the other gender. Never would I begin to imagine my mother meant harm from her comment. I know her reading this will not sit well. She never meant harm. I believe she was really meaning to say she was happy with my choices during the beginning of high hormone years. Yet, my mind has held to that comment to this day. </div>
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The thing is I have struggled my entire life with seeking validation through physical. It is my way to feel loved, valued and of worth. It is the way I show love. Touch is my language. So without getting into to much detail, my membership in my faith was taken away because of actions of immorality. Basically I have had sex and not been married.</div>
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There... I said it. It is like deep down I feel if I can only get heavy enough I will no longer be a temptation to men and I can move forward with my desire to stay morally clean. YES! I see all the flaws in that thinking. One, no matter how heavy I have been, I have never lacked male attention. Two, it takes all the power and gives it to someone else. </div>
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I can't keep doing this. This crazy train has to stop and I want off. I have to find a place where I am okay taking care of my body physically (workouts, losing weight, looking and feeling good) and be able to move forward to my spiritual goals. I want to look and feel strong and beautiful and be able to move forward with attending the temple.</div>
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This day started with me letting a male suitor know that I wasn't interested in pursuing a relationship with him any further (actually told him as I was in the middle of writing this). His attention and assertive actions to be with me were highly attractive. That is where it ended. My old way of thinking would be to allow this relationship to continue while I contorted myself to what he needed and never once asking for what I needed. I can't do that anymore. My value doesn't come from the man that stands beside me. In fact it doesn't come from the absence of someone beside me. My value is based on me. I am finally understanding this fully.</div>
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I can find a place where my physical, emotional and spiritual goals are met. I wish pursuing one didn't mean a struggle in another. Such is my life. The one thing I can say is that I am not quitting.<br />
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This morning I came across a picture I posted to Facebook on this day three years ago. I'm fighting to be her again. That girl was fighting. I will get back to that point and push further. I have done it once. I will do it again.</div>
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Okay, just a glimpse in my world....as I type this my two littles have now joined me. They are spraying my hair with water, combing it soft and putting crazy ponytails in it. I think I am done being introspective for now.</div>
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A few years ago I went on trip to a <a href="http://wortheveryounce.blogspot.com/2012/09/week-in-review.html" target="_blank">place that quickly captured my heart</a>. The things I saw...the things I felt...the things I shared...the person I shared them with. Every moment was breathtaking. The landscape consumed all my senses. Leaving broke my heart. The one thing I took with me was this little piece of baked clay from a local shop filled with pieces created by local artists. Not exactly sure what it was, I used it as a jewelry dish in my bedroom. Since the day I returned home, every time I saw that dish my thoughts were taken back to the short time I spent in that beautiful place and the person I shared it with. </div>
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As I picked up the pieces, I swore I would glue it back together. <span style="font-size: large;">I would fix it.</span> I could do this. As I collected the pieces off the floor it was easy to see how they fit back together. With the right glue and extra care, I was determined to have my special dish back to normal.</div>
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However, that's not what happened. I never bought the glue. The broken pieces got lost. I kept using my dish. Every day remembering the happy time and happy place when it became mine. I held on. I justified that even in this broken state, the dish still held value. It still had a purpose. Yes, it did. It still worked to some degree. I could still place my rings and necklace in the dish each night and retrieve them each morning. Although now, I wasn't reminded of that happy place. Each time I looked at my dish I thought of the broken. I felt it every single time. The thing that once reminded me of joy, now reminded me of what I once had. </div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Until now</span>. <br />
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I kept holding on. What purpose is served to remind myself every day of what once was or what was once promised? How does that move me forward? <br />
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So my beautiful dish...the color of my eyes....the clay from the land where I fell in love...purchased with a lover by my side and so many promises of a future together...<span style="font-size: large;">this is goodbye</span>. You said goodbye to me so very long ago. You told me your usefulness in my life was over long before I was ready to accept it.<br />
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I'm not good at this part . . . letting go. I never have been even though I have had an ample share of goodbye's. I have held to the memory of that happy time. Although this dish brought me angst and pain it also reminded me of love, joy and hope. I can't keep having the back and forth.<br />
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No jewelry dish. <span style="font-size: large;">I'm letting go</span>. Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16141731290094514590noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1827588253737417656.post-25375310064289106452015-09-08T22:41:00.000-07:002015-09-08T22:41:49.085-07:00Learning To Care For MyselfIt is so easy for me to get lost in the care of those I love. If you are in my circle and tell me you are hurting, I will be there. Dang, if you are not in my circle and tell me you are hurting, I will be there. It is who I am. This is not something I am ashamed of. Caring for other, meeting the needs of others, nurturing...these are all things that bring me joy. They do until I lose myself in it...and not in the good way. <br />
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Honestly, I don't know if I know how to care for others and still maintain who I am and what I need. For example, my son had surgery on the hematoma that he received Aug 7 after a tangle with a 4 wheeler.<br />
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I don't regret any moment caring for my children. Their health and safety is my first priority. Like any parent, I am willing to go without to give them what they need.<br />
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However, this does not come without a cost. This month I believe I have gained 10lbs. I stopped getting in my daily workouts. I stopped eating the way that is best for my body. I DID drink my shakeology every day....I did at least that one good thing for myself each day. I wasn't getting the sleep I needed. <br />
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The thing I noticed the last little while is that I started getting super grumpy. I became short with my kids. The slightest thing would set me off. It wasn't pretty and I am not pleased with this. Something needed to change for them and me.<br />
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Every day for the last two weeks I have woke up determined to eat clean and workout. Let's just say each day I have gone to bed feeling broken and defeated. I didn't do what I thought I was determined to do. I just couldn't find my why. This does not make for a good mental state. <br />
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It was confirmed to me yet again that we are provided what we need when we need it. I have been angry with myself. Maybe I can explain it like this:<br />
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Say your child does something that they know they should not have. You find out. What is one of the first things you ask them? Why? Why did you do this? Most often the response is, "I don't know." I didn't always understand this but the truth is they most likely do not know why they did it. They just did it. <br />
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This is how I have felt about myself. I know how to achieve my goals. I have the resources I need to achieve my goals. I just haven't. Why did I eat that? Why didn't I get up when my alarm went off? Why? Why? Why?<br />
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I DON'T KNOW!!!!<br />
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I don't know. I don't know the exact reason. There are many to chose from. The main point is all this the last few weeks has made me angry. Just so happens I was reading in The Compound Effect today and the author was describing how anger is a great motivator. Anger can call people to action. Anger can make the silent, vocal. Funny thing being angry with myself was quite possibly exactly what I needed.<br />
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Today I ate on my plan.<br />
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Today I listened a podcast from Shrinking Obesity and then read from The Compound Effect.<br />
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Today I moved my body.<br />
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Today I took all my Beachbody Performance Line Supplements.<br />
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Today I changed the dialogue running in my head (did you know we have the power to alter that?).<br />
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Today I modeled healthy behaviors for my children.<br />
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And finally this evening I took new Before pics. I have been hiding not wanting to take these. In fact I was in a group this last month where I was asked to take before and after pics as part of the group requirements. I didn't take the before pics because (get this) I didn't think the after would show any difference. How is that for self fulfilling prophecy? <br />
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This girls does not begin to think she has all the answers. (Why am I typing in third person) I have fallen. I have rested. I have been trampled on. I also get up each time I fall. I am getting up!<br />
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As September approached I had ideas of a great new start. New season. New month. New week. There is something about the turning of the calendar that gives me hope and renewal. My plan was to announce a group of like minded people and enjoy September from day one with each day moving towards more of my health focused goals.<br />
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And then life happened. After a four-wheeler accident on August 7, my son FINALLY got to the person we needed and surgery was performed on Aug 28.<br />
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He did fabulous and is healing wonderful with the help of a wound vac. This is everything that I have prayed for. That said, school had also just started that week.<br />
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New routine after the end of our summer fun has thrown all of us. So my point is, September 1 came...and September 1 went. I never set up my group. I never posted for people to join me. With everything going on I believe I pulled away from social media the last week to a great extent. <br />
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And then came the internal guilt. I want o reach my goals. I felt I missed my window. The first passed. Thought I could pull it together on the second. The second passed. On Thursday the third we did pull together at the last minute a celebration of joy party. As a family we were so tired of all the yuck from August<br />
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<li>lost both of our Newfoundland's within a 48 hour period. Their deaths hit us hard.</li>
<li>three of us had strep</li>
<li>Keaton had his accident</li>
<li>three weeks of hematoma getting worse and worse</li>
<li>two of my childhood friends took their own lives</li>
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We decided to have a party. Keaton and Isabella both had a birthday in August. We did celebrate but we never did have cake and ice cream.<br />
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We sent out text invites and it was a joy to see our home filled with family and friends. It was even better to forget all the struggles for an evening and focus on the joy in our lives...of which there is much.<br />
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So as each day passed the story I started to tell myself was that I wasn't worth running a group or achieving my goals. I started telling myself I was a phony because I couldn't pull it together when I wanted to do it. For a minute I started to believe those stories. I saw some things on FB that tore away some more at my self image and I decided I wasn't going to try to run the group. <br />
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Then I thought of a friend. She had awesome success last month. She happened to be in one of my challenge groups. She did the work on her own but the accountability helped her stay focused. I reached out to her and she agreed the lack of accountability the last week had thrown her a little. <br />
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See I need the groups and it appears those in the groups need them as well. There is something about checking in each day (in a safe place) that helps keep us on track and when we get of track it helps get us back on.<br />
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I start today. I am creating my group super quick and will add people as the month goes on. There are a few ready to go. I am ready to go. I need the accountability. I need the community. <br />
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In addition....I am going to blog. I can't commit to it happening often. My life is super busy and if I miss my expectation those stories will start back up. I am shooting for weekly to start. One post a week will keep me going for now and if I get more in even better.<br />
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I may be starting late.<br />
I may be the turtle in the group.<br />
I have so much to learn.<br />
I still battle those stories I tell myself.<br />
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Late is better than never.<br />
Turtles finish the race.<br />
I have come so far already.<br />
Those stories can change when I do the work.<br />
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I know I have been here before. I know I have had these fresh starts before. I know that as long as I don't quit, I have not failed.<br />
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My group is forming now. We will start a prep week Monday, September 7. We will officially launch Monday, September 14.<br />
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If you are interested.....even a little...contact me. <br />
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If you can relate to something in my story we need to connect. I need you. You need me.<br />
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<li>Obese the majority of my adult life</li>
<li>food addictions</li>
<li>food triggers</li>
<li>experience depression</li>
<li>mother</li>
<li>single parent</li>
<li>employed full-time</li>
<li>desire to stay active</li>
<li>desire to eat health</li>
<li>desire to teach your children better habits</li>
<li>pre-diabetic or diabetic</li>
<li>have children with weight concerns</li>
<li>body image issues</li>
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If you relate to any of these things....contact me at<br />
<a href="mailto:wortheveryounce@gmail.com">wortheveryounce@gmail.com</a><br />
<a href="http://www.facebook.com/wortheveryounce">www.facebook.com/wortheveryounce</a><br />
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<em>I'm sitting at my Dr.'s office. I'm a little happy. I haven't really said anything about what I have been doing because I was afraid it would be one more thing that wouldn't work for me. <br /><br /> HOWEVER, between regular (not even every day) 30 minute a day home workouts (thank you Beachbody), daily dose of whole food nutrition (thank you Shakeology and Beachbody), the right medical diagnosis and medicat</em><span class="text_exposed_show"><em>ions (which at this point can be reversed, thank you Wellness Center), surrounding myself with people that I believe in and believe in me (many I have never met in person), I am happy to report I AM DOWN 17 LBS IN 6 WEEKS!!!!<br /><br /> There is no quick fix. There is no magic pill, magic shake or magic wrap. <br /><br /> It is small efforts daily that over time bring big results and lasting changes.</em></span></div>
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So here is the deal. Yes, I am thrilled I have lost 17 lbs. Yes, I am happy the scale is finally moving in the right direction. Yes, I am happy I have finally found answers and support and a correct balance just right for me. Yes, I am feeling better. <br />
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I ALSO can't help but be sad that although I have lost 17 lbs., I am still at the heaviest I have ever been. Although I am down 17 lbs., I think of what that means for what my heaviest weight actually was. I couldn't bring myself to weigh here at home once I knew I had moved above a certain high weight. When I weighed at the Wellness Center I was in shock at the number that stared back at me. I am sad I allowed myself to struggle and stumble and fail so many times thinking it was all my fault. I kept getting up and fighting each day when inside I felt like I was dying. Nothing was working. I DIDN'T KNOW!! I didn't know that my body needed a little help. <br />
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Now that I know what my body needs, I am seeing the results. There is no one size fixes all. There just isn't. For me it wasn't just changing my food. It wasn't just loving myself first. It wasn't just focusing on my kids. It wasn't just addressing my mental health. It wasn't just working out. It wasn't just medications. It wasn't just finding supportive people...my tribe. It wasn't just letting go of people that hurt me more than they helped. It wasn't just......ANYTHING!!!<br />
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For me it is all these things!<br />
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I keep typing out all this semi-motivational stuff and then I delete it.<br />
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All I want to say right now is THIS SUCKS. It is okay to be angry. It's okay to be sad. It's okay to be right where I am and feel the feelings I am having and not have to justify or push them away. I can be happy and sad at the same time!!!! OVERTHE EXACT SAME 17 lbs.!!!<br />
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Good morning and happy Saturday everyone. I want to quickly share a video with you and my thoughts on something I have been <strike>struggling </strike>thinking about the last few days. We don't have to have all the answers. We don't have to be 100% to share who we are and what we want to do. We just have to try.</div>
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16141731290094514590noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1827588253737417656.post-5821336568649502152015-03-05T20:33:00.000-08:002015-03-05T20:33:09.161-08:00Finding My GrooveI have been reading in the book The Compound Effect the last little while. I tried reading it a while back and quit half way through. In fact as I look back, I was doing quite a bit of starting and not finishing things. <br />
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I have been reading that our daily disciplines are like the wheels of a steam locomotive. At a complete stop, it doesn't take much to keep the wheels locked up. The pistons only start moving with an incredible amount of steam. This process is slow. At the start movement can be easily measured. Author Darren Hardy states<br />
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But once the train starts rolling, the wheels get into a rhythm. If the pressure remains consistent, the train gains momentum and watch out! At 55 miles an hour, that train can crash through a five-foot, steel-reinforced concrete wall and keep on going.</blockquote>
Just picture it. Even with adversity and barriers, a train will continue to push forward. Why can't that be me? Or I am making that me. It may be slow starting. My progress may not even be visible at first. But let me tell you, with consistent pressure I will get this body of mine making progress that won't be stopped. <br />
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I already see it. I already feel it. This little engine that could is gaining momentum. I am finding my groove and I won't let the twists and turns get me off track.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16141731290094514590noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1827588253737417656.post-48214766798456961532015-01-15T14:16:00.001-08:002015-01-15T16:53:43.725-08:00We Are Breaking UpFor such a long time you were exactly what I needed. I can't count how many sweat drops poured out while I was with you. Pounds were lost. Confidence found. Friendships strengthened. Fears crushed. Barriers broken. A community found. For right around 18 months you were how I started my day. I ran to you for sanctuary when everything in my world came crashing down. Many Saturday afternoons were spent bringing my children to you for some splishing and splashing. You were my safe place.<br>
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Then everything changed.<br>
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The demands upon me changed. Three children, added to my already four children, came to my home for love and safety. As a single parent working a full-time job suddenly with a newborn and all the demands a newborn brings and a 3 year old with extreme night terrors...time with you was out of the question. My body shifted to basic survival mode. At the same time my personal world experienced another shift....an end, one that wasn't expected BUT needed. Everything I had was put into meeting the needs of seven children on my own.<br>
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After 9 months the three children returned to their mother. As much as I rejoiced in this happening, I found my arms empty and my heart broken. I had much healing to do.<br>
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Survival mode was now shifting to resting. I needed to rest. Rest my heart. Rest my soul. Rest my body.<br>
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Where were you? Where was that community I had found? No one called me asking how I was doing? You took my money every month even though I objected. I asked for a delay. I asked for you to give me some time. You told me there was nothing you could do. You took my money every month. In 12 months I came to you maybe 10 times and paid well over $1200. So basically each visit cost me over $100. You continued to take when I had nothing left to give. <br>
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As I changed, as my needs changed, you refused to help or change with me. <br>
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So today I am coming to you and we are officially breaking up. I can't keep investing in you and you not being willing to invest in me. I want a relationship that will yield mutual beneficial results. I want a relationship that will change together.<br>
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It's been a while since I found what I needed. Yet, I held on to you, worried this new relationship wasn't going to work out. With so many broken promises in my past, I wasn't fully ready to be all in. I did hold on just in case I need to come back to you. I held to the idea that at one time you were everything I needed. Couldn't you be again? <br>
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I can't be part in and part out any longer. It's time for me to jump. It's time for me to stop driving past you wondering. The only one to hurt from all this was me. You never even once acknowledged my absence. I held back from giving my all to my new relationship and by doing so I held back on me. I doubted. I feared. I struggled. <br>
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NO MORE!<br>
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We are breaking up!<br>
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I am ready to be all in. I am ready to dedicate myself to my new relationship. I am ready to invest in me and my children. I am ready to stop wasting $100 a month because I am afraid to let you go. I have found a community that is genuinely invested in my success. I have found a way to combine fitness and family in the same activity. I am better able to model good behavior for my children because I am here for them to see me. You never allowed my little ones to be with me. Now my babies, not just the teenage ones can experience this right along with me. When I have struggled, my new community has checked on me, encouraged me and fought right along side me. In addition, as I have invested in this new relationship, I have found a financial opportunity that I could never have dreamed about. How amazing is that? Can you believe it? A health and fitness relationship that doesn't take my money every month and never care a bit about me. I have found something I am able to align myself with in balance with who and what I am about...faith, family, fitness, food and fun. <br>
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So here I go. I am headed over to the gym to cancel my membership. That moment will allow me to truly JUMP into my Beachbody involvement. So just in case any one doesn't know, I want it to be perfectly clear, I am an active Beachbody coach. I love this company and the team I am surrounded by. It promotes nutrition, fitness, personal development and most of all...sharing health and wellness (physical and financial) with others.<br>
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So here goes. I AM ALL IN. <br>
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Today is my declaration. I can't wait to see where this year is going to take me. No more back and forth. No more fear. No more holding back. I am ready to take my next step...and the next step. <br>
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And now I have a paper to go sign. Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16141731290094514590noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1827588253737417656.post-58548523136960657552014-09-29T21:19:00.002-07:002014-09-29T21:19:20.247-07:00We can do this!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Today is a new day. Keaton fought me like crazy to get in our workout. And I get it. There are a hundred other things I would rather do. Tonight we start preparing for our 21 Day Fix Challenge group that starts Oct 6. Twenty one days....we can do this. Yes we can.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16141731290094514590noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1827588253737417656.post-21535448748880242032014-09-28T21:48:00.000-07:002014-09-28T21:49:43.191-07:00On LearningThis evening my beautiful Isabella was practicing her flute before bed. In all honesty, it was awful. The notes were out of tune and airy. Oh how she struggled to get the correct fingering. Forget anything about correct timing. <br />
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As I listened, offering encouraging words, I couldn't help but think back to my beginning days of playing the flute. I don't play much anymore (the occasional Christmas pageant) but it all seems to be there whenever I pick up my instrument, just like riding a bike. Hard to imagine a time when the notes where not imprinted in my fingertips or the perfect place to position my lips to create that sweet sound was not automatic. I must have gone through that rough learning phase. You know, that time when you wonder if you will ever catch on. It's a difficult phase. You see the notes on the paper, imagine the sound coming from your flute but your fingers don't move fast enough and the sound is squawky and airy. Everyone else seems to be getting it. You feel awkward and discouraged. <br />
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Right now practice time is not always exactly music to my ears. But one day it will be. With consistent practice and pushing through the rough patches, one day she will play masterpieces. <br />
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Then, 26 years later you look back and wonder if you ever really struggled with what now seems second nature.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16141731290094514590noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1827588253737417656.post-27782073004773076802014-09-27T11:53:00.001-07:002014-09-27T11:55:03.508-07:00Parenting: Stand UpFor my oldest child this is an exciting time. He is in his junior year in high school. Soon will have his full driver's license. He has his first car. He is working a little for his dad and earning his own money. And...He is dating. At least he is old enough to date.<br />
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Fast approaching is the homecoming dance for the high school. My son has anticipated this day since the start of classes. As his mother, I enjoyed watching him think of ways to ask his date to the dance. He truly was excited for this event. As his mother I was excited for him.<br />
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Somewhere along the way I forgot the young woman he wanted to take to the dance was not sixteen. We all did. Maybe we didn't want to think about it. I admit the excitement and thrill of this dance and seeing my son so happy almost made me forget...that is until a few days ago. <br />
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A friend of mine posted on FB that he was a little torn about allowing his own daughter attend her high school dance. Not quite sixteen, her birthday would be five days after her high school dance. Comments came in saying to just let her go. She was a good kid. Five days wouldn't make a difference. And on the other side came, not sixteen means not sixteen. If you bend on this one, you will have to bend on other boundaries. My comment read to follow the teaching of our leaders and host a part for all the non 16 year olds and all those not attending the dance for whatever reason. The night doesn't have to be sent feeling sorry for herself.<br />
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I arrived at home and immediately asked to speak with Taron. Long story short, as his parent I made the decision for him. He was hurt, angry, disappointed and sad. Everything he felt was validated and justified. I hurt. I hurt for disappointing him. I hurt for not having done it sooner. I hurt for being left out there alone to make the decision. After the direction was given, I discussed what happed with his dad. Without getting into that conversation, I will say, he left me out on a limb. As a parent, doing what is right doesn't always lead to being liked... at the time.</div>
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Shortly after, as I stood at the kitchen sink straightening up, tears flowed. Wow!! This parenting thing stinks at times. I thought it was hard standing up for what was right when I was a teen. It may just be even harder when you are a parent and do not want to disappoint your children. I don't want to be the one to take away all the fun. I don't want to take away his agency. I don't want to be the one that doesn't teach that we need to follow the counsel of our prophet. It's hard knowing I have made my own mistakes and that can be highlighted at times when trying to do what is right.</div>
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And then the miracle came. Both of my teenage boys saw the goodness in following all the counsel we have been given and not just the ones that feel good at the time. My tender son, trying to understand all of this for himself, tells me that he understands why I have made this decision and it is okay. </div>
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This morning I wake up in my own bed after 7 days of sleeping in a bed at the Marriott Grand Chateau in Las Vegas, Nevada. First thing I did was download all the vacation pics to my laptop. I had every intention of doing a day by day highlight post. However, I can't stop looking at this one photo.</div>
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Everything in me tells me to take a moment and share some thoughts. We didn't do a whole lot this last week that required much money. Quite frankly, I don't have much of it. We did Vegas on a budget. </div>
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There were many times where I wished I could take my kids to all the best attractions, go for a ride in a limo and enjoy fun places to eat. We didn't do that. As a mama I wanted to give my kids as much as possible. Yet, come to find out, that isn't what they needed. . . or what I needed. We simply needed to be together. </div>
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Don't get me wrong, we did stuff every day. But mostly it was about being together. We talked. We walked a ton. We played in the pool at our hotel and at the MGM (a friend gave us a room key to show to get in that works there). We connected with friends. Rekindled an old friendship and started some new ones. We took in the sights. We cooked together. We watched movies. We worked out to DVDs. I caught myself so many times watching them, my children. I watched them as a whole and individuals. </div>
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So often I catch myself playing the what if game. What if I had not married that guy? What if I had ran off with that guy? What if I finished my degree in nursing instead of switching to English? What if I had taken that job in Dallas? What if I had gone to Texas to finish my Master's. What if I didn't have my kids? What if I had stayed married to the boys dad? What if I won the lottery? What if I could be a stay home mom? What if I was thin? What if I was beautiful? What if I had a better relationship with my family members? Oh my goodness it can get out of control.</div>
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The thing is . . . the thing I am learning/feeling, I am right where I want to be. To have these four children in my life is beyond a doubt my greatest gift to me and my gift to the world. I don't have to go looking for things to make me happy or fulfilled. I have them right here. </div>
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Getting four children ranging in age from 4 to 15 to agree on a family activity is not an easy task. I often struggle to feel like I am providing quality activities for the kids that they will remember. Making memories is important to me. I want them to look back on these years as years of joy, development and with any luck, love for their mother. <br />
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It would be easy to take them swimming, which is what most of them wanted to do. Yes, we would be getting in physical activity. Yes, it would most likely be a great memory. However, it costs money. Quite a bit of money actually. Next, I don't know about your family but typically once our towels are laid out and our spot claimed, the kids scatter in all directions to do their own thing. For our Saturday family activity this is not what I wanted. I wanted my children close to me. Close to each other.<br />
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Free. Good for the soul. Good for the body. We are all together. Appreciate the place we live. Good for the environment. Can take the dogs. <br />
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My idea involved a family hike up in the mountains. Oh my goodness. You would have thought I cut off the arm of one of my children when I listened to all the grumbles and groans as we prepared to head out. I heard negotiating, begging, questions and down right kids that were upset we were not swimming or doing something else. <br />
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Being the great mother that I am, I simply kept restating how excited I was to be with my children and dogs in the mountains and how much fun it would be to adventure in the outdoors. I drove to a trail head about 13 miles outside of town. In the parking area I could see trucks with 4 wheeler trailers. We don't have those things but figured we could hike it none the less.<br />
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With nothing more than a couple water bottles and sunglasses we set off.<br />
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Pretty early on I asked Miss Olaya if she was having fun. She responded that she was and then under her breathe, my little four year old said, "as long as we don't see any poison snakes up here" to her sister. That's my girl.<br />
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The dogs had a fabulous time. Miss Lucy looks like a black lab in this picture. She is actually a Newfoundland just back from the groomer with her summer shave down. <br />
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For this photo I asked Olaya if she was happy. She said she was but she wanted to be at grandma's. FIGURES!<br />
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For a while my phone was taking bad pictures. Cause....I currently don't have a case and keep it in my bra. The phone screen got a little clouded with....yep...boob sweat. You are welcome for that visual. :)<br />
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Up where we were there was no cell service. Unfortunately, I could not run my MapMyWalk to see how far we went. I wasn't so much concerned with distance or speed for this hike. I simply wanted my children close to me and enjoying all that we are surrounded with. We hiked up for one hour. I figured coming down would not take nearly as long. It didn't. Only 30 minutes. <br />
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As much as I heard a few complaints going up, the laughs and comments of pleasure started as we went down. I thought I had different children. They were running and playing. So different from the struggle for each step headed up. <br />
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We didn't make it out injury free. Miss Olaya had a little struggle with figuring out the proper mechanics behind using a walking stick. Somehow her stick made direct contact with her eye leaving her a little scratch and some blood to show off. For the photo above she was using the camera as a mirror to see her injury.<br />
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I wish I had started doing these things sooner with my children. Don't get me wrong. I have always done activities with my kids. Movies being a big one. It was a warm day and I thought about taking the kids to a matinee. There are quite a few movies we want to see right now. Those are memories also, right? That doesn't work anymore. I don't want them to look back and say my mom took me to the movies and we shared popcorn. I want them to say my mom held my had as we walked up a trail. We watched as the dogs splashed through the stream. My mom encouraged me to make it to the top. I want them the remember walking, serving and laughing together. We saw caterpillars, butterflies, flowers, birds, trees. We felt hot, tired and invigorated. <br />
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I want these moments when the kids hold hands walking down the trail. When brother helps sister and sister learns who she can trust.<br />
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I want them to feel the sun on their face. The breeze blowing in the trees.<br />
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Even the dogs played hard. Our English Pointer never stopped running. The Newfoundland, she sure enjoyed laying in the stream to rest and cool off.<br />
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I want memories of laughter and smiles. They joy that comes from pushing our bodies and feeling fabulous.<br />
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I want them to appreciate the beauty we have right in our backyard. Seriously... we live in one of the most beautiful places on earth. <br />
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Today was a good day. We made good choices. We made some memories. We did things we didn't want to do and realized we liked it. Coming off the trail all the kids said they had a good time and that they loved it. PHEW!!!!<br />
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Until.....Taron was stung by a bee on his lip right as we were getting in the car. It started swelling pretty fast.<br />
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Then, as we drove back down the mountain we had the windows open. All of a sudden, Keaton screams and starts flailing his arms and legs around like crazy. You could feel the car shaking even as we drove. A bee flew in the window and went smack on his face. He didn't actually get stung. However, that bee didn't stand a chance against his fear based revenge. And that little bee....wasn't so little. It was huge. Poor kid! Some luck he has to have that thing make it in the window and smack him in the face.<br />
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Love these kids!!! This mama is feeling today was a success. Ready for more days just like this.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16141731290094514590noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1827588253737417656.post-20411397305890545672014-05-25T08:48:00.005-07:002014-05-25T08:48:53.857-07:00Ready for a Challenge?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span id="goog_936790582"></span><span id="goog_936790583">Anyone that knows me knows that I have had my fair share of challenges lately. From these challenges I am stronger, braver and hopefully come out learning amazing new things about myself. While I have a different kind of challenge starting, I 'm confident the end result will be the same.</span><br />
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Along with 5 other coaches I will be hosting a mixed group Beachbody Challenge starting June 9th. This challenge is all about motivation, accountability and learning something new about myself.<br />
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Do you do better when someone is cheering you on? That's exactly what happens in Beachbody Challenge Groups. We share our struggles and triumphs, cheer each other on and pick each other back up when we stumble. Um, and there's some really sweet prizes sometimes. <br />
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This is an amazing opportunity for you to get some great coaching from me and 5 other coaches. The challenge begins June 9. I am looking for 3-5 people to join with me and get their summer started off on the right foot! Leave a comment below (or shoot me a message if you'd rather) if this sounds like something you need in your life!Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16141731290094514590noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1827588253737417656.post-58064297228518822132014-01-26T20:57:00.002-08:002014-01-26T20:57:40.938-08:00Everything Kind of LoveIt is in our nature to love. Love makes the world go round. People search for it. Wars have been fought for it. Works of art have been created for it. Having said that, I don't believe it is in our nature to open ourselves up to the idea of love when we know there will be an end. Yes, love ends every day. Relationships end. Marriages end. Love songs come to an end. And yet, we don't ever enter with the idea that this will end.<br />
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Right now I find my heart battling what it knows and what it wants. My heart has been blessed to welcome three spirits into my home as foster children. One we received on his fourth day of life, he is now 4 weeks old. The older two, age 3 and age 2, came last Wednesday. Their mother, my sister, got lost for a bit. While she is finding her way back, I am acting in proxy for her, loving these children.<br />
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Therefore, with every touch, with every kiss, with every goodnight, with every 2 AM feeding I feel my heart growing. I am amazed at the capacity a heart has to love. I am amazed at how when I thought I had nothing left, when I felt far to inadequate to provide for these children, my heart just grew, and it grew and it grew.<br />
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But....with that growth comes the knowledge that one day those beautiful creatures that fill my heart now, will return to their mother. Don't get me wrong. Every night (and frequently during the day) I pray she continues to get stronger. I pray her capacity is strengthened. I pray she is preparing herself to be the best mother she can be to these children. I pray her children will be returned to her.<br />
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That said, I am wildly aware that loving these children as my own (because there is no other way to love a child in your home) will one day come to an end when they return to live with my sister.<br />
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I don't know if I can adequately express the spectrum of feelings associated with loving a foster child. My heart swells when I see little Baby I smile as I sing to him when I think he is asleep. My heart is overjoyed when Little M holds her arms out for me to kiss and hug her goodnight. I am knocked over with pride when the oldest, Little E finds me after attending his second Sunday at church beaming with joy as he shows me his picture he colored in primary class.<br />
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How do you move forward with never wanting this to end and yet praying my tender sister will have her children returned to her as soon as humanly possible. When loving these children, we don't just clear out a drawer for them. They become a part of every thing we do. Extra hooks in the bathroom for towels. Extra car seats in the car- if not a larger car. Extra little kid plates and silverware for the kitchen. Step stools to reach the bathroom sink for hand washing. Little cars and trucks for this confused little boy. Princess dresses for this little girl that follows my own little princess around like a shadow. A baby swing in the living room. Bottles. Diapers. Wipes. A bassinet by my bedside. Our entire routine has changed. And that change is not only felt by me but by my husband and four children. They are making sacrifices as well. For us to make it out the door in the morning it is a team effort to get these little ones ready. The schedule in our home has become dictated by 8 PM bedtime for the little ones and now as sleep is ever so coveted by me, I do not follow far behind in getting to bed.<br />
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My love for my sister grows every day. I see her efforts and listen to her words as she mourns not feeling her babies in her arms. I can not begin to imagine the pain, the overwhelming pain, that must be felt to have not ever had a chance to take her baby home from the hospital. The pain that it must be to see empty car seats in the back of her car. There has only been one moment when I was angry, like truly angry with my sister. One night, Little E woke around midnight screaming and continued to scream for nearly two hours. I had no way to console him. He could not communicate his pain. Only then did I fight off feelings of thinking she did not deserve to have her children back. Only then I threatened to run away with these kids in the event she was to get them back. I am sad I felt that way. My heart eased as this little guy finally drifted off to sleep calling for his mommy. His feelings for his mother are real. His pain is real. He doesn't understand why he has to be with me. No matter how good I am to him, I am not his mother. <br />
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Today my sister came for her scheduled visit. It was a good visit. My role is to support her and encourage her as she works on establishing boundaries and learn and utilize parenting skills (which we could all be better at). Again my heart swells to watch her interact with her children and see their love for each other. After the visit ended, the tears from the children had stopped as I distracted them as she left by getting them to help frost a cake. <br />
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After all was returned back to normal, Kevan and I found ourselves sitting at the kitchen table with him holding the baby. I watched him ever so tenderly love on the baby as he was fighting between sleep and awake. I couldn't help but be filled with love for my husband as I watched him parent this baby and I also felt my heart break as I was washed over with the idea that this will all end.<br />
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I am determined to love these children with everything that is in me. I will continue to love them as my own. I will love them with the knowledge that by loving them with abandon I open my heart up for pain. As a family, we all will incorporate the life of having 7 children and all that that means knowing one day we will have extra hooks in the bathroom for towels. Knowing we will have extra little plates and silverware. Knowing the space in my heart that has been filled with these three children will one day feel their absence.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16141731290094514590noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1827588253737417656.post-44320442332164856342013-12-31T08:02:00.003-08:002013-12-31T08:02:43.006-08:00Last DayThe last 72 hours have been a whirlwind. Often we are reminded how quickly life can change. Well, what an understatemtn. Friday evening I received a text message from someone I care for quite deeply. <br />
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As a result, today I am anxiously awaiting the arrival of a Child Welfare licensing worker to approve my home for emergency foster care. <br />
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As I read so many end of the year post, I can't help but feeling a little disjointed. I'm not ready for it to end. I am not ready for what will come tomorrow. Who ever is? And while thoughts of uncertainty and apprehension are ever present, I am overjoyed and humbled with what tomorrow will bring. <br />
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For today, I am staying present in the moment. Reminding myself to take it one step at a time and to leave it with my Father in Heaven. His plan will come forth. Prayer is constant as I seek guidance and understanding. This event not only brings questions about the choices my loved one has made but it has caused even more to question the choice made to ask me to care for this child in her absence.<br />
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Being asked to love someone else's child is not something a person aspires to. However, when asked . . . you get ready. You prepare for those that don't think you adequate. You prepare for those that think themselves a better choice. You move forward honoring the request of your loved one. You evaluate your capacity. You evaluate the capacity of family members in the home. You pray. You smile. You move forward. You breathe.<br />
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I don't know exactly what will come from today or what will unfold as the next few weeks advance. One thing I am certain, I will move forward prayerfully in faith taking it one day at a time. Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16141731290094514590noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1827588253737417656.post-53498311442192145062013-12-29T14:18:00.003-08:002013-12-29T14:18:54.001-08:00Shame Loves SecrecyThis post has been simmering for a while. Always there. Always in my thoughts. Never really able to bring myself to serve it up. At moments of energy I would visit the pot, give it a quick stir, smell the ingredients, take a little taste and think it is just about right. Then, somehow between putting the lid back on and going to the cupboard to retrieve bowls, I paused. Questions started to roll. Uncertainty left me feeling no one wanted what I had to give. It wasn't ready. Something was missing. There was to much of something else. It had not cooked long enough. Now it was to mushy to serve. <br />
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My creation was neglected. I let it crust over. Dry out. I couldn't even bring myself to clean everything. It just sat there. Abandoned. <br />
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What injustice to think myself a failure because I have to begin again! So I slipped, or relapsed; so what? Starting over is what all creation is about; it is part of the fabric of success in enterprises ranging from spinning a web to splitting an atom. Willingness to make a new beginning is a sign of growth. It means I am returning to the program with a deeper understanding of myself and my illness. <strong>Far from wanting to hid in the back of the room, I feel I have something of value to contribute.</strong></blockquote>
The words spoke to me. I felt them. I was hiding. There was no denying I had gone to the back of the room. Thoughts of writing, coming back, filled my heart. I went to my laptop. Nothing came. Tears. Tears came. Sorrow. Shame. Fear. Emotions filled me that I was not prepared to feel out. I was not ready to try them on. My laptop was closed. The emotions were silenced.<br />
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Although I wasn't ready to write or talk about what was going on with me, I did feel the need to make some changes. Thursday, December 26 (after three months of indulgence) I ate clean. Feeling in a complete state of chaos, the desire to get back to serenity, to peace led me to my practice of abstinence found in OA. There is no longer a local group. Phone meetings are the only way I can connect with a group. That day, at different times, I joined two phone meetings. I just listened. Their words filled me. That night, I went to the gym. Not prepared to get in my gym clothes, I hid in the shielding support of a water aerobics class. The class was great. Feeling and pushing my body felt thrilling. However, at the same time, I was clouded with overwhelming shame. When normally I feel water to be restorative, hiding my body in the water brought sorrow, guilt and anxiety. </div>
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During my lunch hour I started reading The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown. My therapist had been encouraging me to read her work for the last few weeks. Finally, after receiving her book as a Christmas present to myself, I took advantage of a few minutes to begin her book. On page 9 I found myself in a realization that had been forming for a while. I read the following: </div>
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Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates words wrapped around it-it can't survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy. The most dangerous thing to do after a shaming experience is hide or bury your story. When we bury our story, the shame metastasizes.</blockquote>
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Being in a dark shame place (for not days, not weeks, but for months) was getting me further into a place of shame. After work, I joined in on another OA meeting.<br />
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So what am I saying? Where is this going?<br />
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I can no longer hide in a dark place of shame in the back of the room. I need to wrap words around my shame. This is not news to me. For a long time, sharing my story was a way for me to work it through. The struggle released its grip on me when I shared it with others.<br />
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Maybe I needed this time to truly understand why I need to share my story. I had originally gone into hiding thinking I simply needed a break. Parts of my story were to hard to expose. I wasn't ready to face them, let alone share them with anyone else. I refuse to speculate if that choice was right or wrong. It happened and here I am.<br />
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I am returning with a deeper understanding of myself and my illness. I can no longer pretend, I Got This. I am powerless over food and my life has become unmanageable. It is my belief that a power greater than my own can restore me. The decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of God has been made. <br />
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Today is Sunday and I am half way through my fourth day of abstinence. My thoughts are clearer. The chatter in my head has diminished. I don't know if any lbs have dropped. I won't be weighing until 7 days abstinent. Right now I am just focused on getting back, making the daily actions of my plan part of every day. <br />
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I am reading. Praying. Meditating. Moving my body. Eating clean nourishing food. I am being mindful. I am getting on OA phone meetings every chance I get. I am opening myself up to the idea that I am not in control. I am finding grace in the knowledge that my mistakes bring me deeper understanding. I am connecting with individuals that only want for my success. I am withdrawing from relationships that cause me angst. I don't have the capacity to refill each time they drain my energy stores.<br />
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Today is a good day. As I wrap up my post I turned to today's reading. This book is always perfect in bringing me what I need when I need it. In closing I leave with you the reading from For Today:<br />
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As I see and feel this moment, all else in my mind is blocked out. I am free of the past and the future. I am living in the now. Aware of sounds and colors, light and shadow, I look outward from myself - and that is freedom. I can notice another, listen with energy. I live life a moment at a time, leaving the moments lived yesterday and those to be lived tomorrow where they belong. </blockquote>
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"Moo"tivation along the way.</div>
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Finish Line- 47 minutes</div>
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This photo makes my heart happy. This photo is like a great book. There is the main storyline (the picture as a whole) but a great book also has just as wonderful multiple story lines playing out. Those stories are not mine to tell. Even now, I look at this photo and my heart swells with joy. The relationships shared, the friendships strengthened, the injuries overcome, the personal victory won, the gratitude for a body that does what I ask it to do, the three generations present, memories made...that is what I see in this picture.<br />
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The Turkey Trot was a wonderful part of our Day of Thanks. Already planning for next year.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16141731290094514590noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1827588253737417656.post-91923809869604709632013-12-04T23:57:00.002-08:002013-12-05T15:13:24.350-08:00Oh, Happy DayAs I put this day to rest, I can't help but feel joyful. It wasn't an extraordinary day. I didn't win the lottery. None of my kids won some big award at school. My house didn't just clean it self. No, it was a normal typical day and because of that, I am filled with much happiness as I sit here and reflect.<br />
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Like it or not, here you go for a day in the life of Tara.<br />
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7:45 make it to work on time, a few minutes early in fact<br />
8:30 make a fruit smoothie at work<br />
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12:30 take my mom to ShopKo during lunch to utilize her senior citizen discount while purchasing coats and other items for my boys....saved me over $45<br />
1:00 lunch brought from home<br />
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4:45 got up the nerve to invite all my coworkers to join in on my December squat challenge (figured I wouldn't look nearly as funny found in my office doing squats if everyone was doing them) All but two people on my floor agreed to participate!!!! I AM SO EXCITED!!<br />
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5:00 off work, pick up littlest from day care, honey picks up my boys and they all go get haircuts, I then pick up 10 year old daughter and we run to the store to get shoes for her dance costume<br />
7:00 dinner of pancakes, homemade syrup, eggs, turkey bacon and oranges- My son Keaton and I only had eggs, turkey bacon and an orange<br />
7:30 as a family dishes unloaded and loaded, started and then a game of Uno<br />
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8:30 prayers and little ones to bed<br />
9:00 Myself, honey and my boys all to the gym- <br />
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I am going to bed with peace and a very happy heart...for so many reasons. Just wanted to share my ordinary spectacular day. <br />
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Ate clean today. Moved my body. Built memories. Shared health with my family, friends and coworkers. <br />
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I like ordinary days.<br />
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How was your day? What made your day spectacular?<br />
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Good night all.<br />
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Love,<br />
Tara<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16141731290094514590noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1827588253737417656.post-26920075870836768572013-07-05T09:18:00.003-07:002013-07-05T09:18:54.309-07:00FitBloggin Day 1- Multnomah Falls<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
I could share the blow by blow of FitBloggin.</div>
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I could start with describing my drive to Boise Wednesday night and the heartache I felt as I drove away leaving my family behind. </div>
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I could share details of the Boise airport.</div>
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I could share how paranoid I was that I would sleep through my 3:30 AM alarm and miss my flight.<br />
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I could share how strange it feels to actually walk out to the door of your plane and find real propellers.<br />
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I could share picture after picture of clouds and skyline from my window seat.<br />
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I could share a description of my first FitBloggin celebrity sighting after breakfast.<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Meet <a href="http://simplifyingsam.wordpress.com/" target="_blank">Samantha</a>, Matt and <a href="http://mrsfatass.com/" target="_blank">Sue</a></td></tr>
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But I won't. This highlight of Thursday was hiking to the top of Multnomah Falls with <a href="http://tiffanyjorge.com/" target="_blank">Tiffany</a>, a Portland native that was ever so kind to pick me up from the airport.<br />
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After a stop for breakfast, she suggested we visit the falls. Back in my high school days I had been to the falls during band tour.....there is a blast from the past. I remember some of the band members climbed to the top. Not me. I settled for looking cute, hanging out on the bottom bridge and cheering the others on.<br />
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Tiffany and I went to the first observation area. Then we even agreed to walk up to the bridge. I don't think either one of us truly arrived at the falls thinking we would hike to the top, nor did I really think I wanted to.<br />
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However, once on the bridge, I wanted it. As I looked up to the point where the falls began, I wanted to be there. I wanted to know that experience. I thought of what I am always telling my children when we go for hikes and they are grumbling. I tell them the feeling from the bottom looking up is nothing like making it to the top and looking down at where we have just been and what we have just accomplished, let alone the stunning view. I thought of how 20 years earlier I was in that same spot and SETTLED to stay on the bridge as others achieved a goal. Not this time. I wanted it for myself.<br />
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The thing about trips like this is that something happens just a ways in. Something clicks. What was just a little stroll becomes a goal, a challenge. You become committed. For me it was at this switchback. We got to this point after a pretty steep climb and thought there is no way I am putting all this effort into this and not making it to the top. We were almost half way. I was in. No turning back now. Luckily, Tiffany went along with me. <br />
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That said, I wasn't exactly all smiles and high energy heading up. It was tough. The humidity was high. The temperature was climbing. There were switchbacks that we could not look ahead. We put our heads down and repeated one step at a time. I kept telling myself to keep moving forward. Doesn't matter how fast. Doesn't matter that people are passing. Let them. I am here and I will do this.<br />
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And then we got to head back down, which meant having to go back up for a bit. That was tough. See, once you get to the top of the switchbacks, then you have to go down a trail to get to the top of the falls. When going back, you have to go up that trail to get to the top of the switchbacks. And don't think it is all "downhill" from there. Those trails are steep. Heading back down was a slower process than I would have thought. Easier, for sure. </div>
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As we left, I glanced behind one more time to the top of the falls. No one can take that feeling away from me. I was there. I was there at the top. Many can say that but not all. For me day one of FitBloggin was not about the ice breakers or name tag decorating. It was about doing more than I thought I could do. Being stronger than I thought I was. Achieving a goal I didn't know I had.</div>
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Parts of being a mom do not feel so good. When I see my children struggle, when they feel real pain, this is when my heart exists outside my body. With every sorrow, my heart breaks. There are not many places where my Keaton feels like he fits in. To me, he is a shining star <span style="color: #38761d;"><strong>ALWAYS</strong></span>. Yes, I struggle with some of his behaviors. What parent doesn't now and then with their children? However, one look at this beautiful boy brings purpose and meaning to my life.</div>
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With size not in his favor, Keaton feels he starts with a few strikes against him no matter where he is or who he is with. I want to protect him from all in the world that would do him harm. While I celebrate him in my life, I see the looks he gets when we are at swimming pools, restaurants, parks, clothing stores or any public place. He is my perfect boy. I see a child that wants to be loved. I see kindness and devotion. I see a child transitioning into a man right before my eyes. I love him regardless. I just don't want him to hurt. I want him to shine.</div>
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Recently, I took a chance and enrolled Keaton and my 9 year old daughter, Belle in a theatre camp. Initially, my desire was to occupy these two during the day while I am at work. Additionally, I did want to take advantage of it giving the kids an opportunity to ride their bikes the 1 mile downhill (which means 1 mile uphill) each day. However, my main goal was to expose and introduce them to a new skill and possible talent for them to pursue. I want them to have every opportunity to find their passion. This two week theatre camp sounded like a win/win to me.</div>
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As a mom, imagine my delight when I was speaking with a staff member at this camp when she told me the staff will truly miss Keaton when the camp ends this weekend. She stated that each staff member has mentioned Keaton being a stand out kid. She commented on his enthusiasm, desire to learn, kindness, creativity, aptitude and all around pleasant nature. (Mama don't cry to the lady on the phone.....don't cry, don't cry, don't cry).</div>
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Eventually I felt the conversation safe enough to share my biggest concern. There are not many places where Keaton feels accepted. He <strike>always </strike>often feels like the outcast. The one kid that just doesn't fit in. I told her I have seen a light in him grow that I have longed to see. He comes home each day jubilant to share the details of his day. He admits to it being hard. He admits the music makes his voice tired. He admits he doesn't like riding his bike home afterwards. And yet, he states all this with a smile and energy. </div>
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That was when she told me, "Tara, most of us don't fit in one way or another in most places, but here we seem to work. This is where we fit in. I want you to know, Keaton SHINES when he is here."</div>
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And now the tears.......I tell her it was not easy for me to pay the $135/each. But I am so glad I did just to hear those words and to give my son/children this experience. EVERY ONE DESERVES TO SHINE. Let me say it again, EVERY ONE DESERVES TO SHINE. My beautiful baby doesn't only shine, he radiates. I am so blessed. </div>
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Maybe I have a future actor on my hands. Maybe an award winning playwright, set designer or sound person. Maybe he will just be the guy that carries off and on props during the show. I don't care. My boy shines.</div>
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This is our journey. This is his journey. This is one amazing mama payday. I can't wait to watch him and Belle perform on Friday night. I will be the mama in the third row center with the biggest smile, proudest heart and deepest gratitude.</div>
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As a side note, Belle and her talents are not overlooked at the camp. My beautiful Belle always stands out. She is the show stealer, ALWAYS. I think even she understands this is a time for Keaton to stand out. In her tender way, she is stepping back for the spotlight to hit her big brother. I have some amazing children. </div>
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